Wednesday, April 20, 2011


Let’s imagine the scenario where you are shopping in a mall and suddenly, someone who you haven’t met in say, 10 years bumps into you. It could be a school buddy, an ex coworker, an old friend, ex lover; basically someone who’s not in your life anymore. How would you react? Would you ignore him/her? Would you greet him/her and recollect the time you both had shared or you’d walk away saying a curt “Hello”?

The people we meet, the conversations we have do have an impact on us and that’s why it’s quite important to be careful about the people who we associate ourselves with.

My suggestion is: If that person reminds you of some happy times spent in past, then it’s okay to re-connect. But if the memories associated with that person are not so nice such as a bad relationship, a bad job, a heart break, disappointing time then it’s best to ignore them.

Many people have the assumption that the best friendships of our lives are the ones formed during school/college times. I do not agree with it. Besides, during childhood days, our exposure to the life is too narrow and hence, the friendships formed during those years cannot be taken ahead once we grow up, unless after growing up, your wavelengths still match. My best friends are the people who I met after finishing my studies. None of them comprise of my school/college buddies and all of them are wonderful humans. I don’t feel the need to know someone since years to be able to make friends with them. They should just be able to strike a rapport with me and should be able to gain my trust. (which is very hardJ)

“Old is Gold” just doesn’t hold true as far as the friendships are concerned. Friendships are supposed to help you grow as a person; they are supposed to give you optimism for life. If they are not doing that, they are simply not worth your time. Open your mind, get out of your "frog in the well" mentality and try making new connections. Just because you know someone since 20 years, doesn’t mean he/she is your closest friend.

Your thoughts/opinions are welcome.



suj said...
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suj said...

Hi Vaibhavi,

I totally agree. In my life, the shelf life of friends is very short. I get over them quickly, mainly because I keep growing and evolving, and with me, my needs evolve too. its hard for my friends to keep up with me. So I just let them off, as gently and as painlessly as I can. Sometimes I get branded as ''heartless'', but then who cares ? Life is short, and life is a party. So make the best of it !

Loved your post, it completely echoes my thoughts. Am looking forward to reading more from you !!


vaibhavi said...

Hi Sujata,

Loved your comment. "the shelf life of friends is very short".That applies to me as well!!And being called "hearless"? It's all just too familiar for me :)

I completely agree that life's short and should not be wasted...

Thanks for your comments.


Javeed Ahmed M said...

I totally Disagree...

When You are a Kid, and you make friends, Most of the friendships are made out of innocence, without any prejudice.

But as You grow, you tend to become clever, or should I say cunning and decide on whom to choose as friends and whom not to...And there are many reasons that you come across as deciding factors...

I still prefer Old is Gold and New Ones...can Joy the Party, but will be tested against time to reciprocate the hand of friendship...

Just My Opinion...

Thank You for Sharing Your Views...

Psst. Suja's Best Friend is her childhood friend...And She is Her TWIN...LoL!!!

Ashish said...

I agrees that how I will react will surely depend on the last impression that person has left on me. But whatever the situation be, a genuine smile and a friendly chat always keeps the negativity away.
What do you think?